If there is anything that I have learned in my young life, it is that things change.
I think a lot about that on the train ride from El Paso to Lamy, a small station south of Santa Fe where all the trains stop before chugging along to someplace else.
Things changed.
No, not “things.”
Me.
I’ve changed.
I’m going back home.
I’m giving up on the idea of independence, but perhaps more important than independence is personal responsibility.
Making your own decisions, committing to those decisions and moving forward in life is all the freedom that truly exists.
It’s all the freedom that any one of us really has.
A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure, Chapter 39
Welcome back to another insightful episode of “Our Story Your Story.” In this week’s podcast, authors/hosts Shelley Carney and Toby Younis unravel the final chapters (39-41) of “A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure.”
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Join us as we delve into the themes of facing dread, embracing the unknown, and the powerful lessons learned from life’s unpredictable journey.
Facing dread and summoning the courage to take the first step is a universal challenge that transcends the pages of books and spills into the days and events of our lives.
It’s a sentiment we’ve all felt—standing at the edge of the unknown, feeling the weight of apprehension.
It’s the initial step that is often the most daunting.
It is not a long trip between the big station in Albuquerque and the small one at Lamy. As we near it, Mr. Kudrow sidles down the aisle, stopping at my seat asking, “Are you ready for this?” “I’m not sure.” Mr. Kudrow nods. “That feeling there, son, that ‘I’m not sure.’ Sometimes, that’s as good as it gets. But you’re young, you’re smart, and you’re strong. So you’ll do fine.”
A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure, Chapter 39
Confront your fears head-on, muster the strength to step into uncertainty, and watch as the journey unfolds.
This lesson, rooted in personal experiences, strikes a chord with anyone who has hesitated on the precipice of change.
It’s a call to action, a reminder that growth and discovery await those who bravely navigate the uncharted waters of their fears.
“There are moments when we imagine it’s going to be so much worse than it turns out to be. If we would just let life happen and not worry so much, we would probably enjoy everything a lot more. As soon as you make your decision and then follow through with it, everything gets easier.”
— Shelley Carney
Toby Younis opens the discussion with a personal reflection on overcoming fear and the significance of taking the first step in various life experiences.
“Crossing the bridge of dread, the stepping stones across the water to get to the other side, having the courage to step across those stones has the benefit of proving to yourself that you have the courage to do it, and the ability to accomplish whatever it is. But you can’t do any of that if you don’t take the step to the first rock in the river.”
— Toby Younis
The first step of confronting our fears head-on is the hardest. Once you get started, it becomes easier.
The train begins slowing down a half mile before the Lamy station. I feel tension rising and my heartbeat speeds up in anticipation. All the possible bad things that might happen rush like a river through my mind. The train comes to a complete stop at the platform. I take a deep breath and stand up, collect my things and walk resolutely to the door to face up to the choices I have made.
A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure, Chapter 39
Stepping into the unknown is a daring venture, but doing it as a united force, with the support of those we cherish, unveils a profound strength that lies in unity.
Shelley Carney and Toby Younis share their journey of relocating to South Carolina in the latest podcast episode, emphasizing the significance of companionship and support.
“We want to move to South Carolina. We know that we need to sell our houses, and then we’ll figure out the rest along the way. We’ve never had a house built for us before. This is all new, but we have so many supportive people who are helping us through it. That answers the ‘how’ for a lot of things. You know, I want to do this thing, but I don’t know how to do it. Doesn’t matter. Make the decision. Take the first step. The next step will become clear if it’s the right direction for you.”
— Shelley Carney
Their story underscores the idea that tackling the unknown becomes more manageable and empowering when shared with others.
“What’s the worst that could happen? The worst is that our houses don’t sell. What’s the best that can happen? The best that can happen is we sell our houses. We have enough money not only to cover the down payment but to make an investment in furniture and other things that we want to do with the house. We make the move and by next Thanksgiving, we’re in a home where we can host friends and family.”
— Toby Younis
In the tapestry of life, weaving threads of togetherness not only provides comfort but also fortifies our collective resilience.
The lesson is clear: embracing the uncertainties becomes an enriching experience when met with a united front.
The strength derived from unity becomes a beacon, guiding us through uncharted territories with confidence and resilience.
The theme of responsibility and repayment, dissected by Shelley Carney and Toby Younis in their latest podcast episode, resonates deeply in our lives and personal development.
I don’t know what happened to my Uncle Carlos’ motorcycle and I promised him a summer’s worth of work on the ranch. With the loss of the motorcycle, I might owe him the rest of my life in servitude.
A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure, Chapter 39
They delve into the idea that taking responsibility for our actions is not merely a duty, but a transformative force, shaping our character and influencing the trajectory of our personal growth.
“It would have been worthwhile to have spent that time in servitude with him because it would have made me a stronger, healthier, and better person. I thought I had lost the bike and that I would have to face the music associated with losing the bike. When I saw that bike, there was a little party in my heart.”
— Toby Younis
Fulfilling obligations and repaying debts, whether tangible or emotional, isn’t just about meeting external expectations; it’s a profound commitment to our self-betterment.
Taking responsibility for our actions is essential for personal growth and fulfillment.
In navigating this terrain, we encounter challenges that demand accountability, and in overcoming them, we forge the building blocks of our maturity.
The weight of responsibility, rather than burdening us, becomes the crucible in which our resilience and integrity are tested, ultimately leading to a more robust sense of self and a deeper understanding of our place in the world.
Reflecting on the profound truth that the end of one journey marks the beginning of another, the hosts poignantly capture the essence of life’s continuous evolution in the latest podcast episode.
This concept serves as a timeless reminder that closure, far from being an endpoint, is a threshold for new beginnings.
A thousand things run through my head, all in a matter of moments, and I realize my adventure has not ended. It has just begun.
A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure, Chapter 40
Each culmination becomes a pivot point, a juncture where experiences coalesce into wisdom, and the curtain rises on unexplored chapters.
The journey’s end, rather than signaling a conclusion, becomes a prelude to fresh narratives waiting to unfold.
“I’ve had a lot of experiences in life. What was unique about that particular experience is it set the tone for the rest of my life. It was a confidence builder; it was a learning experience. It made me wiser, and it made it easier to take that first step. The major events in your life: getting married, having children, buying a house, and taking a new job. All of those things start with the first step.”
— Toby Younis
This cyclical nature of life propels us forward, beckoning us to embrace the unknown with anticipation and resilience, understanding that every ending is a gateway to a new and uncharted beginning.
In exploring the universal theme of coping with loss and discovering strength amid challenges, the latest podcast episode resonates with the experiences of many.
Whether faced with personal grief, setbacks, or unexpected hurdles, individuals often find themselves navigating the complexities of hardship.
This shared journey underscores the collective resilience ingrained in the human spirit.
I’m going back to where I started. But not as the same boy I was a week ago who was dissatisfied with the life he was told how to live. I’m going back as a man who has chosen his place in this world.
A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure, Chapter 41
It speaks to the innate ability of individuals to draw upon inner strength during moments of difficulty, reminding us that adversity, while challenging, carries within it the potential for personal growth and empowerment.
“It’s been 6 months since Kevin passed, and you asked me, how do you feel? You know, I feel okay because I took it one day at a time, one step at a time. Still, there are times when it is hard. But I know that I have people in my life who show up when I need them.”
— Shelley Carney
“I’ve watched your growth over the years. From the first time I met you, you’re always on a growing path. You’re a different person, in a very good way, than the person that I met 12 years ago. Especially in the past 6 months. Actually, it started before Kevin passed away, having to deal with his illness and knowing exactly how that illness was going to end. You became stronger in another way. Then when it happened, I thought, this is going to be a demarcation point. This is either going to scrunch you up into a little tiny rubber ball or you’re going to accept the fact that you have to change and grow yet again. And as usual, you have. You’re a different and better person than you were 6 months ago.”
— Toby Younis
Strength is often found in the most unexpected places during the most challenging times, revealing the resilience inherent in the human spirit.
Delving into the podcast’s discussion on the symbolic significance of the hero’s journey, Shelley Carney and Toby Younis illuminate a timeless narrative archetype that echoes through literature and life alike.
The hero’s journey, as a powerful metaphor, transcends cultural boundaries and speaks to the universal human experience.
It symbolizes the transformative process of facing challenges, overcoming obstacles, and achieving personal growth.
In our own lives, we often find echoes of this hero’s journey—confronting trials, experiencing setbacks, and emerging stronger and wiser.
This storytelling archetype reflects the inherent human quest for self-discovery and resilience, resonating with individuals at various stages of their journeys.
I stride toward them a few steps and, like a gladiator who’s just fought his greatest fight, I raise my arms up high over my head and shout out with great confidence, drama and poise, the last stanza of William Cullen Bryant’s “Thanatopsis.” “So live, that when thy summons comes to join The innumerable caravan, which moves To that mysterious realm, where each shall take His chamber in the silent halls of death, Thou go not, like the quarry-slave at night, Scourged to his dungeon, but, sustained and soothed By an unfaltering trust, approach thy grave, Like one who wraps the drapery of his couch About him, and lies down to pleasant dreams.”
A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure, Chapter 41
Our personal journeys often mirror the classic hero’s journey, filled with challenges and opportunities for growth.
“No matter how long you live, death comes. What you have at the point that you ‘wrap the draperies of your couch about you and lie down to pleasant dreams’ is those dreams are the visions of whatever you accomplished in your life. Hopefully, you’ve accomplished enough so that you can lie down and have pleasant dreams instead of regrets.”
— Toby Younis
As we navigate our paths, recognizing the symbolic significance of the hero’s journey allows us to find meaning in our challenges and view them as integral chapters in our ongoing narratives.
In the final chapters of “A Gypsy’s Kiss: A Treasure Hunt Adventure,” Shelley Carney and Toby Younis explore profound themes that resonate with the intricacies of life’s journey.
The podcast episode delves into the significance of facing dread, embracing the unknown with unity, understanding the responsibilities we bear, and finding strength in difficult circumstances.
As we bid farewell to this captivating tale, let’s reflect on these themes and take proactive steps to infuse their wisdom into our own narratives.
Actively seek opportunities to step into uncharted territories, whether personally or professionally, and do so with the support of loved ones.
Share your fears and aspirations with those around you, fostering a sense of unity that amplifies your collective strength.
Identify areas in your life where you can take on more responsibility, honoring commitments with dedication.
Recognize that personal growth often stems from fulfilling obligations, and the journey toward self-improvement begins with a sense of accountability.
During challenging moments, consciously look for the silver lining.
Acknowledge the strength within you that surfaces during difficulties.
Reflect on your experiences, recognizing how resilience has been a constant companion on your own hero’s journey.
As “Our Story Your Story” goes on hiatus for the holidays and Shelley and Toby embark on a new adventure in moving to South Carolina, we encourage you to stay connected.
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Until we meet again, may your own story continue to unfold with wisdom, resilience, and a sense of unity.