“Whether they won or lost, whether they had scored 10 goals against the team or they had 10 goals scored against them, the most important thing in life at that point was where are we going to get some ice cream?” — Toby Younis
“We need somebody that we trust to share our deepest thoughts and our secrets that have to come out. We need somebody that we can trust to do that.” — Shelley Carney
In the world of sports and personal development, good sportsmanship and mentorship are two vital qualities that can have a profound impact on individuals and communities they belong to.
In our recent video podcast episode, “The Value of Good Sportsmanship | A Gypsy’s Kiss Chapter 6 | Our Story Your Story,” we explore the significance of these qualities and how they shape our lives.
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Let’s explore the importance of good sportsmanship and mentorship and their profound effects on personal growth and interpersonal relationships.
Good sportsmanship is more than a set of rules or guidelines; it reflects an individual’s character and values. Whether it is in the context of sports, school, or any other area of life, good sportsmanship sets the foundation for healthy competition, respect, and fair play. It encompasses qualities like integrity, humility, and kindness.
Poor sportsmanship can have detrimental effects on an individual’s character and mental health. It fosters a culture of negativity, resentment, and hostility.
Good sportsmanship encourages individuals to uphold the highest ethical standards and promotes positive interactions among teammates, opponents, and spectators.
Our podcast episode provides inspiring examples of good sportsmanship.
Toby’s reminiscences about playing baseball highlight the importance of enjoying the sport and embracing the camaraderie it brings.
His advice resonates with the idea that true victory lies not only in winning but also in building relationships and fostering a sense of unity within a team.
“I think it’s more difficult to live without good sportsmanship. Whether you’re a jock or not, apply it to life. You’re going to win some, you’re going to lose some. Your behavior should be the same in each case.” — Toby Younis
A mentor plays a pivotal role in personal and professional growth. They provide guidance, support, and valuable insights to their mentees.
A mentor’s primary aim is to empower others and help them navigate the challenges they face on their journey.
Key qualities of a good mentor include being an attentive listener, offering knowledgeable advice, and guiding the mentee without imposing their own beliefs.
In our podcast episode, we witness the influence of mentorship in various scenarios.
Toby Younis, as a father, offers valuable advice to his daughter, imparting wisdom gained from his own experiences.
Brother Allen serves as a spiritual advisor and wise counselor to his students, embodying the qualities of a mentor who is committed to nurturing their growth.
“You got to do what you got to do. You have to change perspectives when your kids get out of college or when your wife dies. Change perspectives, look at life in a completely different way now, and adjust to it rather than fight reality.” — Toby and Shelley
The link between good sportsmanship and mentorship becomes clear when we examine the qualities they both embody. Respect, honesty, accountability, and empathy are crucial traits shared by both good sportsmanship and effective mentorship.
When individuals embrace these qualities, they not only excel in their respective endeavors but also inspire and uplift those around them.
By instilling the values of fair play, humility, and integrity, mentors cultivate a positive mindset that transcends competition and permeates all aspects of their mentees’ lives.
The qualities of good sportsmanship encourage individuals to contribute to a positive and supportive environment that fosters growth, teamwork, and mutual respect.
Similarly, mentors play a crucial role in guiding others toward personal and professional success, imparting wisdom, and nurturing their mentees’ potential.
Improving these qualities in ourselves not only enhances our individual lives but also strengthens our relationships with others.
“Not that they should be pro sports or anti sports, but they should be pro good sportsmanship.” — Toby Younis
In our quest for personal growth and development, it is essential to shift our focus from seeking constant instruction to cultivating vital skills that empower us to navigate life’s challenges.
Instead of relying solely on a predetermined set of guidelines, we can nurture qualities such as creativity, independence, self-confidence, ingenuity, and the ability to problem-solve. By doing so, we foster resilience rather than rigidity, enabling us to adapt and thrive in a rapidly changing world.
When we prioritize strategic thinking over purely tactical approaches, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and broader perspectives.
While tactics may provide short-term solutions, a strategic mindset encourages us to consider the long-term implications and anticipate potential obstacles.
It is through strategic thinking that we unlock innovative solutions, find hidden opportunities, and make more informed decisions that align with our goals and values.
In this journey of personal growth, it is crucial to recognize the value of being taught rather than simply being given answers.
Embracing a learning mindset allows us to absorb knowledge, insights, and wisdom from others who have walked similar paths before us.
“I had a bunch of different influencers on both ends of that spectrum, from adventurous to pragmatic.” — Toby Younis
Actively seeking guidance and mentorship from experienced individuals who embody the qualities we aspire to develop can accelerate our growth and broaden our horizons.
Amidst life’s trials and tribulations, the anticipation of a new, fulfilling existence propels us forward.
Personal growth is not merely about following instructions; it is about cultivating essential skills, embracing resilience, and nurturing a strategic mindset.
Let us embrace personal growth as a lifelong journey, guided by these principles, to unlock the fullest expression of our authentic selves.
Life is a series of twists and turns, unpredictable and ever-changing.
Sometimes, our path takes an unexpected sharp turn, challenging us to summon strength and resilience we never knew we possessed. It is in these moments that we realize the true essence of a life well-lived—a life defined not by the destination but by the courage, love, and growth we experience along the way.
For some of us, the journey takes a heartbreaking turn with the loss of a loved one.
In the case of my husband, his journey has reached its earthly conclusion with his passing. The profound impact he made on my life and the lives of others will forever be cherished and remembered.
Yet, as his journey comes to a close, mine continues on, reshaped by the sharp turn fate has presented me.
It is during these times of immense loss and grief that we recognize the fragility of life and the depths of our own strength.
As my journey takes a sharp turn, I face new challenges and opportunities for growth.
The path ahead is uncharted, and the weight of grief lingers, but I continue to move forward, honoring the memory of my husband while embracing the future that awaits me.
It is in this space that we discover the incredible capacity of the human spirit to adapt, evolve, and find a new purpose.
We find solace in pursuing our passions, nurturing our relationships, and making a positive impact in the world. Each step forward becomes a testament to the resilience of the human spirit, an affirmation that life, even in the face of profound loss, can still be meaningful and fulfilling.
Packing away the clothing and personal items of my husband, Kevin, is an emotional journey that walks a delicate tightrope between nostalgia and depression. Each piece of clothing, each cherished possession, carries a flood of memories, reminding me of the person I have lost and the beautiful moments we shared.
It is a natural and overwhelming experience as grief resurfaces with every item I handle. The weight of sadness bears down on me, threatening to pull me into a spiral of despair.
To stay on the positive side of things, I consciously choose to embrace a mindset of gratitude and celebration.
I find solace in the love that these belongings represent. I acknowledge the role each item played in Kevin’s life, and our life together. I find comfort in knowing that even as I pack away these belongings, the love and memories they hold will forever remain in my heart, guiding me forward as I navigate this journey of healing and remembrance.
I’d like to share this tribute to my husband, who was a wonderful partner and an inspiration to me throughout our lives together.
Kevin Joseph Carney, a loving husband, father, brother, and friend, embarked on his final journey on June 4, 2023, peacefully at his home in Rio Rancho, NM. Born on March 2, 1962, in Tempe, AZ, Kevin touched the lives of many with his compassion, dedication, and unwavering love.
Kevin’s journey began in Tempe, where he attended Tempe High School, graduating in 1980. He pursued higher education at ASU, nurturing his thirst for knowledge and shaping his admirable work ethic.
Kevin’s career took flight when he joined Southwest Airlines as a Ramp Agent in 1983, and for an astounding 39 years, he dedicated himself to the airline and his fellow employees. His passion for supporting others led him to become a TWU Union Representative, tirelessly advocating for the rights and well-being of his colleagues.
Beyond his professional endeavors, Kevin’s spirit soared high above the clouds. As a member of the Coco Bird Balloon crew, he reveled in the joy and beauty of the International Balloon Fiestas in Albuquerque. Chasing vibrant balloons dancing across the sky and being an integral member of a fun-loving team brought him immense happiness.
Kevin had a creative soul, and his fascination with 3D printing became a source of delight for his family and friends. His talent and generosity intertwined as he crafted small toys and trinkets, each item carrying a piece of his heart. Kevin’s ability to turn his ideas into tangible creations showcased his ingenuity and provided a lasting legacy of his love.
Within the pages of books, Kevin discovered countless worlds and endless possibilities. Whether diving into novels or exploring the depths of non-fiction, he found solace and enlightenment between the lines. His passion for reading fostered a profound understanding of the human experience, making him a compassionate and empathetic soul.
Above all, Kevin’s love and devotion extended to his cherished family. He leaves behind his beloved wife, Shelley Carney, who stood by his side throughout their 39-year marriage and his recent cancer battle. Their union was a testament to the power of love and unwavering support.
Kevin was a proud and loving father to his children, Alicia Buonviri and Jared Carney, instilling in them the values of compassion, perseverance, and the importance of family. He was a guiding light, offering his wisdom and love whenever they needed it most.
Kevin’s memory will forever live on in the hearts of his two younger brothers, Brian and Scott Carney, as they reminisce about the shared experiences and cherished moments that bound their lives together.
In the tapestry of life, Kevin’s thread was woven with love, generosity, and kindness. He touched the lives of countless individuals with his unwavering support, his unyielding dedication, and his genuine warmth. As we bid farewell to this remarkable soul, let us carry his spirit with us, allowing his legacy of love to guide and inspire us all.
Rest in eternal peace, dear Kevin. You will be deeply missed, but your memory will forever be etched in our hearts.
“Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.” – Eskimo Proverb